Sue

Sue
Inspirational Woman of the year award

Sunday, 26 July 2026

Power of the people

 


Throughout history, it has been the people on the front line—the people at the coalface—who have brought about real and lasting change. Often neglected, ignored or exploited, they eventually reach a point where they can no longer wait for someone else to solve their problems. They take matters into their own hands.

Others may later join them, support them, and help them grow, but the passion, courage and determination come from those who are living the problem every single day.

Think of the enslaved people who created the Underground Railroad. Think of Rosa Parks and the countless ordinary men and women whose quiet acts of courage transformed the Civil Rights Movement. History remembers the famous names, but every great movement has depended on ordinary people deciding that enough is enough.

The same is true in addiction.

In 1935, two men who were considered "hopeless drunks" discovered something remarkable. By helping one another, and then carrying that message to others, they found hope themselves. They realised that recovery required profound personal change, and together they developed a programme of suggested steps to help others make that same journey.

They also made another extraordinary decision. They refused to become a professional organisation. They declined outside funding and government control, believing that independence would protect the movement and preserve its simple purpose: one alcoholic helping another.

There are certainly aspects of the programme that reflect the language and thinking of the 1930s, and some of its terminology feels dated today. But none of that should blind us to what it achieved. It was an inspired idea that has given hope to millions of people around the world and has undoubtedly saved countless lives. Some have tried to emulate the fellowship, but no one comes close!

I also think of Dr. Mutulu Shakur and the Black Panthers, who created the People's Drug Programmes and the "School of Common Sense" in the Bronx during the 1970s. They were born out of frustration with poverty, slum landlords, corrupt policing and the devastation caused by drugs within their own communities. They were created by the people, for the people, and they proved so effective that they threatened powerful interests. Eventually, they were dismantled by those who stood to lose financially and politically. Whether one agrees with every aspect of their politics is almost beside the point. Their work demonstrated what can happen when communities begin to believe in their own ability to solve their own problems.

I would like to think that, in our own small way at SMART-UK, we have tried to follow that same principle. We have always believed that lived experience is not an optional extra or a convenient slogan. It is a source of knowledge. It is expertise born of survival. It deserves to sit alongside science, research and professional practice—not beneath them. I keep coming back to the same belief: that people are not broken things waiting for experts to fix them. They have strengths, wisdom and resilience that can be nurtured, and when those strengths are connected with science, compassion and practical tools, extraordinary things happen.

The same lesson has been repeated throughout my life. I have seen it among people recovering from addiction. I have seen it among survivors of childhood abuse. Many organisations have grown around these movements, and some have done wonderful work. But the real power has always remained the same: people with shared experience reaching out to one another and saying, "You're not alone. I've walked this road too."

Perhaps that is the greatest lesson of all.

People are far more capable than they are often encouraged to believe. Institutions have an important place, but they can sometimes become absorbed by systems, funding and bureaucracy, gradually losing sight of the very people they were created to serve. The most enduring change often begins somewhere much simpler—with one human being helping another.

That idea has changed history more than once.

Perhaps it still can.

Sunday, 7 June 2026

"Five Star " Welbeing Programme




     The "Five Star" Wellbeing Programme 

is the innovative vision of

Sue Cox OBE, Acupuncturist and Founder of SMART-UK, developed in partnership with the staff and men at HMP Holme House.

Drawing upon Neuroscience, Chinese medicine theory, and Lived experience, the programme offers a unique and transformative approach to wellbeing. It provides

participants with a deeper understanding of the human brain, behaviour, and emotional resilience, while equipping them with practical tools to support both themselves and those around them.

At its heart lies a simple but powerful belief: people are not defined by their difficulties. Every individual possesses strengths, abilities, and untapped potentialthat can be rediscovered and developed.

The programme is named "Five Star" to reflect the understanding that we are all made of stardust, that anything that is "Five star" is the best, and to honour the Chinese Five-element theory, which underpins much of Chinese thought.


Challenging Traditional Thinking

For too long, addiction has often been viewed through a lens of deficit and

dysfunction. The Five Star Wellbeing Programme offers a different perspective.

Rather than seeing addiction as evidence of a broken individual, we explore the

possibility that many of the traits associated with addictive behaviour are the

remnants of powerful human characteristics—determination, drive, persistence, risk-

taking, and an extraordinary capacity for achievement.

These qualities may once have been essential for survival. In today's fast-paced

world, they can become misdirected, but they remain strengths that can be

understood, harnessed, and redirected towards positive outcomes.

This strengths-based philosophy underpins everything we do.


How the Programme Began

For many years, Sue Cox taught auricular acupuncture to prison staff as part of

wellbeing and recovery initiatives.

When asked whether prisoners themselves could be trained to deliver acupuncture

treatments to their peers, practical considerations meant this was not a viable option.

However, the question sparked a new idea.

Why not teach prisoners the science behind the treatment? Why not share knowledge

about the brain, behaviour, emotional regulation, and wellbeing?

What began as a small educational project quickly evolved into something far greater.

Participants embraced the learning with enthusiasm, curiosity, and commitment. The

programme grew organically into a peer-led wellbeing model that empowers

individuals to support themselves while positively influencing the wellbeing of

others.


The "Five Star "Approach

The programme consists of two interconnected elements.

Education and Understanding

Participants are introduced to key concepts in neuroscience, emotional wellbeing,

human behaviour, and Chinese medicine theory. The focus is on helping individuals

understand how the brain works, how habits and behaviours develop, and how

practical techniques can improve wellbeing.

Knowledge becomes a tool for self-awareness, personal growth, and decision-

making.


"Five Star "Wellbeing Coaches

Participants can progress to become Five Star Wellbeing Coaches.

These peer-support roles provide opportunities to develop practical wellbeing skills,

including acupressure and other evidence-informed techniques, enabling participants

to support themselves and their peers.

The coaching model promotes responsibility, leadership, empathy, and positive social

connection—qualities that contribute to healthier prison communities and improved

individual wellbeing.


Empowerment Through Peer SupportOne of the programme's greatest strengths is its emphasis on empowerment.

Prisoners possess valuable lived experience, insight, and an understanding of the

challenges faced by those around them. They often communicate in ways that are

relatable, authentic, and trusted by their peers.

By recognising and developing these strengths, the programme creates opportunities

for individuals to become active contributors to wellbeing rather than passive

recipients of support.


Impact

The Five Star Wellbeing Programme continues to grow through reputation and word

of mouth.

Today, multiple prisons operate active coaching networks, with dozens of trained

wellbeing coaches supporting their peers and contributing positively to prison life.

Feedback from participants and staff consistently highlights increased confidence,

improved well-being, stronger social connections, and a renewed sense of purpose.

The programme does not claim to be a miracle cure. There is no single solution to the

complex challenges surrounding addiction, trauma, and recovery.

What it does offer is something equally important: knowledge, hope, practical skills,

and the opportunity for individuals to recognise their own value and potential.

Our Vision

The Five Star Wellbeing Programme is about more than wellbeing.

It is about changing the narrative.

It is about recognising that people are capable of growth, contribution, andtransformation.

Most importantly, it is about helping individuals discover that the qualities they once

believed were their greatest weaknesses, may in fact be their greatest strengths.

Friday, 6 March 2026

 Over many years in the “recovery” world, I have heard countless opinions, theories, and explanations. There has never been a shortage of “wise words”, and among them there are certainly some gems.

But when I look back at my own journey, “After all the theories, the debates, and the wise words, the truth is simple: it wasn’t ever the theories that lifted me out of the black hole. It was the “Heart connections”-those moments when one human being truly reaches another with understanding, compassion and shared humanity.
Words can point the way, but it is connections that pull us out of the mud.

In my addiction, it was connection with other addicts who understood the language of that struggle.
In surviving abuse, it was connection with other survivors who shared the same wounds and courage.
In my Buddhist practice, it is connection with fellow practitioners walking the path together.
And in my Chinese medicine practice, it is connection with colleagues and patients through the shared intention of healing.
Again and again, across different parts of my life, I have discovered the same truth: healing does not happen in isolation. It happens through connection — through meeting others in honesty, compassion, and shared humanity.



Friday, 18 July 2025




Hi All,

After more than 25 years of teaching and working with remarkable people, I continue to learn every day—especially from those in the NHS and Prison system. Their dedication and resilience have truly enriched my life.
Any assumptions I might have held quickly disappeared once I saw the immense challenges these professionals face daily. Despite tough situations, they show incredible professionalism, humour, and compassion, and I remain in awe of their strength.
Yet, the demands of their roles come at a cost. The stress they endure can impact their health, relationships, and wellbeing, and some statistics about their life expectancy are deeply concerning. Many bear these burdens in silence.
Over the years, my respect for them has only grown, as has my concern for their self-care. Too often, those who support others don’t prioritise their own needs, so I try to encourage them to seek help and look after themselves.
While I rarely make specific recommendations, I wholeheartedly endorse Adam Walker, who specialises in men’s mental health. He is passionate about supporting those in demanding roles and offers special rates for our community.
If things feel tough for you or someone you know, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Adam is approachable and happy to answer questions, whether through his website or a phone call. Taking that first step can make a real difference. Here’s the link!
With respect and warmest wishes,
Sue Cox OBE
Adam Walker:
"Working in high-stress environments like the prison service can take a toll—mentally and emotionally. I offer a safe, confidential space for men to explore stress, anxiety, and pressure without judgment. Therapy can help you make sense of what you're carrying and reconnect with yourself.If you're considering therapy or not, you're welcome to get in touch with any questions or to arrange a free 30-minute call. There’s no pressure to commit. Sometimes, the first step is just starting the conversation.

Happy to chat through when you're ready.
Regards
Adam
balancedbridgetherapy.co.uk
Why Don’t More Men Go to Therapy – And Why That Needs to Change

Wednesday, 17 January 2024

OBE!!


 It has been a while since I wrote anything, I have been so busy! But I couldn't not write about this amazing experience at Windsor Castle!

I am unbelievably proud to have been given an OBE in the King's birthday honours list, and the experience of going to the castle to receive it from Prince William was surreal.

He was absolutely charming, a real "Prince Charming" who was really interested and asked lots of questions that made sense!

I am still a bit overwhelmed with it all, and not sure if I am making any sense! It seems odd to get an award for something you love doing, like being given a box of chocolates and then getting an award for eating them!

That said, I hope my writing urge will get moving again, there is always so much to say about the addiction world and the survivor world too! I have it in mind to record a few thoughts on video, hope that doesn't sound too pretentious!

In the meantime, here's the video of the Investiture, what a memory!

Monday, 7 June 2021

BAFTA!!

 I was so proud of my daughter Siobhan and her school when they made the channel four documentary "The school that tried to end racism" But now they've only gone and won a bloody BAFTA!!!

Congratulations
!!!!!



Friday, 30 April 2021

The Hidden Superpower of Addiction


The Hidden Superpower of Addiction!




My new book is out now!!

"The Hidden Superpower of Addiction" is a culmination of forty-odd years of practice,  study, teaching, researching, and most of all recovery and transformation. I don't say "I believe that addicts have incredible skills and abilities, because that is in itself condescending! I KNOW they have! So in this book, I want to show the reasons why addicts aren't defective or sick or broken but are simply wired in a different way! and born in the wrong century! 

More than anything it is a way of looking at how we can transform those brilliant innate skills and transform them into something amazing! 

It is available from me at suecox@smart-uk.com or any of the usual bookie-type places! Here are some links

The Amazon link is this :

Friday, 19 March 2021

Imagine the power!

                                     



    When I first went into "recovery" several hundred years ago, I was taken to an AA convention down on the South coast at  Selsea . I remember sitting in the ballroom, seeing this endless sea of faces. Someone said, "Imagine if all this lot went back on the piss together, Selsea would be wiped off the face of the earth"!  We all laughed, because we knew the truth of it, and what that image would look like! and in recovery, despite the seriousness of that thought, we had learned to laugh at ourselves! 

Today I was thinking of that time when someone asked "What my new book was about"? And I thought, "Imagine if all this lot, everyone with this exceptional wiring, could get into recovery, and on to restoration to reach there true and brilliant potential, what THAT would do to the face of the earth! What a lot of untapped potential and power! 

Empowerment begins when we see that we are not "hopeless" we are not broken or sick, mad or bad, we don't have an "illness" or a moral or intellectual weakness, we are simply wired in a different way. Left to its own devices that wiring can be unimaginably destructive, but if we can recognise it, and transform it, it can be unbelievably powerful.

That is what it is about!   

Saturday, 31 October 2020

Survivors Voice Europe 10 years today!


 Survivors Voice Europe

 

                 31st October 2010 -              

 

10 years ago today



    It is ten years since we all met together in Rome for the first time,  Clergy abuse survivors from 14 countries 
answered the call from Americans Gary Bergeron and Bernie Macdaid to meet, and I met my friend and colleague Ton Leerschool for the first time, 
and Survivors Voice Europe was born. It was there also we also met among many others,  Shelly Winemiller, David Lorenz, and our wonderful deaf and speech impaired friends from the Provolo Institute in Verona.

    It was a life-changing event, we did not go there to have anything to do with the vatican, we weren't "protesting" because we know that to be a waste of time! We know they won't ever change unless they are forced to, they are simply incapable! 

    NO!  We were there to celebrate our survival - DESPITE the vatican! They tried to muscle in, they saw the World's press was there and did try to get involved and had the nerve to ask if Lombardi could make a speech! WTF!  Of course, that did not happen! And he scuttled back off into his hole, heckled all the way. 

Later some of us  were ushered into a room with Frederico Lombardi, the papal spokesperson, and a grade "A" snake in the grass, as slithery as they come. After listening to his bullshit, while he ignored everything we said, we told him we were done! We were here to party and he and and his cronies were not invited!




                             

Since then Ton and I have been back to Rome 4 times, spoken in the Italian parliament, and attended several rallies in London. 



We were at the UN in Geneva twice and gave hours and hours of evidence against the church to the Committee on the rights of the child and the Committee against torture (Child abuse is considered torture in the UN articles definition of torture
)  


I have personally been to Verona 4 times to support our deaf and speech impaired survivors there, spoken in the Polish parliament, travelled to America twice to speak about the abuse issues, addressed countless gatherings, and been featured on Russian television as well as many TV and radio programmes. And that is just me! There are many more doing their bit all over the World. Sadly, there is also a lot of exploitation, people hanging on to this cause either for payment, for their own egos or political agendas.

We, however,  are just  SURVIVORS, we don't fundraise, in fact, we refuse to take payments from anyone; That is our absolute choice. We have been stripped of our dignity once, we won't do it again, so we pay for everything out of our own pockets. Each time we have to speak about our abuses, we relive them and are further traumatised, but we will do it for our own empowerment and to help others.

        So what have the church done in those ten years? 

NOTHING! NADA! RIEN! NICHTS! NIENTE! -absolutely F... ALL! 

    They are still the duplicitous, narcissistic creeps they always have been. They waffle and lie and collude with their criminal priests, blame victims,  further abusing them, have endless "focus groups" and make EMPTY promises. STILL, they deludedly think they are running the show! 

    They were found GUILTY by the UN and were given clear directives to change, and a time limit to complete them  - they ignored them! They do not recognise any court or International body or care about consequences. They are a narcissistic and corrupt organisation, and it is well known that Narcissists care for No-One but themselves, so we will not waste our precious time talking to them, just to feed that narcissism. 


But ten years ago today we DID have a wonderful result! 

    Clergy abuse survivors have always experienced isolation, forever thinking they were alone. The church liked to keep it that way, they didn't want us knowing how many thousands of lives they had destroyed. They certainly didn't want us comparing abuses with other countries, seeing the full extent of their crimes. They didn't want us talking to each other because isolation was what allowed them to run riot! It was one of their methods to always pick out isolated or vulnerable children and then further isolate them in their fear and shame.

I was reminded of the effects of isolation once when I was flying over the alps on my way to Rome. I looked down and saw small villages in the valleys between the mountains. I wondered if, years before, they hadn't known each other was there! There was no communication and no easy travel. If a wolf attacked a village there was no way of warning other villages or getting help from them, they were isolated. So the wolf ran riot. That is how the vatican has always got away with their crimes.

 So the REAL win for us on the 31st October 2010, and the precious prize we got from bearing our souls again and re-traumatising ourselves, was that we found each other!!! We held on to each other and danced, laughed, cried and felt safe, probably for the first time since forever, and after ten years we are still holding on to each other and our group has grown and grown and continues to spread! 

Child abuse is a crime against humanity, and as such the churches should be held accountable for thousands of human rights violations. Properly accountable, not their patronising, offensive lip service

But I won't hold my breath!